What Intended Parents Should Look For in a Surrogate
Starting the journey to parenthood through surrogacy is both exciting and deeply personal.
For intended parents, one of the biggest steps is choosing the right surrogate—someone who not only meets the medical requirements but also feels like the right partner for such a meaningful experience. It’s about finding a person you can trust, connect with, and share this incredible chapter of life alongside.
In this article, we’ll walk through some of the key things intended parents often look for in a surrogate. And because the process can feel overwhelming at times, we’ll also share how Hatch helps guide families every step of the way.
1. Open and Honest Communication
You know how any good relationship just feels easier when everyone can talk openly? It’s the same here.
Setting clear expectations—like how often to check in, and whether texts, calls, or video chats work best—makes things smoother for everyone.
There might be little bumps along the way, but being upfront about feelings or concerns helps keep everyone connected. Open, honest conversations are what turn this into a true partnership.
2. Genuine Motivation to Help
This part really matters.
Of course financial compensation is part of the process, but most people step into surrogacy because they genuinely want to help someone create a family.
Understanding those deeper reasons—whether it’s a love of pregnancy or a desire to give back after seeing someone struggle with infertility—brings so much reassurance.
When motivations align with your own values and hopes, it creates a strong foundation of trust.
3. A Lifestyle that Aligns With You
Healthy routines play a huge role in supporting a safe pregnancy.
Intended parents often want to understand things like daily diet, exercise, and overall wellness practices. Past health history, including substance use, can also be important to discuss.
These aren’t judgmental questions—they’re just part of making sure the journey is as safe and healthy as possible. A focus on wellbeing helps everyone feel confident about the road ahead.
4. Shared Values and Personality Traits
This is where things go beyond the medical side. Surrogacy is such a personal journey, and it helps when personalities and values genuinely click.
Exploring views on parenting, family, and even how challenges are handled makes a big difference. Emotional maturity and stability also bring comfort.
When values feel aligned, the journey feels less like a process and more like a meaningful connection.
5. Strong Support System
No one goes through this journey alone—and they shouldn’t have to.
Having encouragement from family, friends, or a partner makes everything feel steadier. Professional support, like counseling or guidance, can also be a real lifeline along the way.
A strong support network helps reduce stress, creates balance, and makes the surrogacy experience more positive for everyone involved.
How Hatch Helps With The Matching Process
The beautiful part is—you don’t have to figure all of this out on your own.
Hatch has been helping families for over 30 years, and a big part of that work is carefully matching intended parents with surrogates who truly align with their hopes and values.
Surrogates go through an in-depth screening process that looks at health history, lifestyle, emotional wellbeing, and motivations for pursuing surrogacy.
This way, everyone enters the journey with confidence, knowing the match is built on trust and shared understanding.
With Hatch’s guidance, intended parents can feel reassured that they’re starting this life-changing chapter alongside someone who’s ready and supported every step of the way.
Bringing it All Together
Choosing a surrogate is one of the most meaningful decisions intended parents will ever make.
It’s about more than health checklists or legal steps—it’s about trust, communication, and building a bond that feels right. From open conversations and shared values to lifestyle habits and strong support systems, each piece of the puzzle helps create a smoother, more positive journey for everyone involved.
The good news is you don’t have to navigate this process alone. With Hatch’s decades of experience and thoughtful matching approach, intended parents are guided toward surrogates who have already gone through a detailed screening process and are ready for this commitment.
That careful attention helps ensure a match built on respect, alignment, and genuine care.
In the end, surrogacy is a journey of hope and heart—and with the right match, it can also be one of the most rewarding chapters in your life story.
