When you have a pair of siblings or more under one single roof, it is quite common for a house to not to be in peace. Siblings are born to bicker, fight, scream, and tease each other irrespective of the love they have hidden for each other. They consider each other as rivals and constantly try to pull down the other.
Most parents are unable to comprehend this, because no matter how hard they try, they fail to completely eradicate the rivalry their kids do to each other. Instead of trying to shout at them, it is only wise to try to minimize or lessen the frequency of such incidents.
Siblings can turn rivals for not one specific reason but for many, some of which are even beyond our level of understanding. They can fight, taunt, or hate each other out of boredom, jealousy, temperament issues, or difference in each other’s way of thinking. No matter what the topic of argument is, these fights between siblings are always nasty and difficult for parents to intervene and stop. Therefore, parents usually excuse themselves out in an attempt to avoid taking sides.
However, at the end of the day, parents must realize that their ignorance can disrupt and vandalize the relationship between siblings. All the children require their parents’ help and guidance in order to know the importance of the existence of their sibling. When parents ask their kids to fight their own battles, there are chances that the bickering and rivalry can increase over time if neglected for a long time.
Hence, parents must step in occasionally when the sibling rivalry crosses a set limit. Parents must attempt to resolve any such conflicts between the siblings. They must ensure to maintain peace at home as well as save the relationship of the siblings. There are multiple measures and tactics parents can adopt to stop the siblings from bickering but instead love, share and care for each other. Mentioned below are a few tips on how parents can address this problem and teach their kids certain family values.
Learn to react appropriately
As parents, you have to take necessary action when your kids break the line of decency and start bickering at their sibling. However, Parents sometimes tend to overreact in such situations, and they not only increase sibling rivalry, but also create a major setback between them and the kids. Therefore, it is imperative that parents keep their calm, not take any sides, but try and resolve any differences between their kids. When we talk about reacting appropriately, not only does overreacting cause more disruptions, but also not reacting will make situations equally worse. Hence, parents must be able to evaluate any rivalry between the siblings and react accordingly.
Teach the siblings to resolve problems
As much as parents play a vital role in resolving issues between the siblings at home, the kids are equally or more responsible of solving their issues by themselves. Therefore, when siblings begin to tease and bickering at each other, parents must ensure that they teach the kids on how to stay calm. They should also teach them that getting agitated, they should sort out their problems calmly and peacefully.
Set specific ground rules and principles
At times, fights are bound to get out of hand, and in such scenarios, parents cannot and should not stay at bay and watch. Instead, there should be certain rules set so that any teasing, fights, or arguments must be stopped after a certain limit. Kids need to be taught to let go and make peace with their sibling.
Instill the value of being a part of the family
Despite any rivalry and fights between siblings, at the end of the day kids should be made aware that family is important over everything. Despite their differences and fights, siblings must love each other, stay strong and care for each other, and never let anyone get hurt. Parents should explain to them the meaning of being a family. Give them examples of your relationship with your sibling or show them an inspiring movie or documentary. Teach them and explain to them how they are bound by blood and that rivalry will only break that bond.
Ask them to manage anger effectively
If your kids end up hurting each other because of anger outbursts, then make sure you teach your kids to manage their anger in an appropriate manner. They must be made to understand that they should not vent their anger out in form of bullying their younger/elder sibling. Anger will bring down any relationship. Hence, the bickering and rivalry will only end when your kids learn to calm down and not let anger destroy their relationship with their sibling.
Ensure you are not one of the reasons
Sometimes, the bickering, the teasing, and arguing may not be the kids fault. They could be imbibing the trait of fighting from you or anybody else in the house. Try to dig out the actual reason for your kids’ behavior and actions. There are times that you might end up being surprised. Sometimes you never know that your behavioral pattern is being copied by the kids.
Parenting can be challenging, and being parents to two or more kids can be hectic. There are times when the siblings love each other and cannot live without each other. However, there are also times when they can just not stop bickering, teasing and taunting each other. They practically turn in to rivals. In situations like these, parents play a vital role in shaping the minds of their kids.
Hope this post will help you to mould your children’s minds and teach them to love and value family.
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