The most difficult and challenging phase of parenting is when the kids are in school. From waking them up in the morning to putting them back to sleep at night, the children are dependent on parents to take care of them. Likewise, parents too feel the responsibility to take care of their children. However, more often this responsibility turns in to spoon-feeding kids. Eventually parents end up doing all the tasks that children are expected to do by themselves. Children tend to become lazy and stop doing any work, even homework.
As children won’t do their homework, parents may do it for them, and soon this becomes a habit and routine. Therefore, it is imperative for parents to say no to children, teach them to do their work and make sure important things like homework which is designed for kids is done by them alone. Parents need to realize how to strategically get their kids to do the work. Homework is given to kids in school so that what they learn at school can be practiced by kids at home. But if parents do their school work, how will the kids ever learn.
Kids are smart and they will sure find ways to make parents give in this battle of completing homework. Children will cry, act stubborn or not listen at all. Parents will listen to their kids as they do not want to lose their bond with the children. But instead of feeling powerless in front of your kids, utilize the power of being parents and lay some ground rules for them. Children will avoid doing their homework giving reasons of being ill, or forgetting about it, or not understanding what was to be done or even say things like it was not taught at school. But you as a parent must know how to strategically handle such excuses and take away the rebellious attitude in your kids.
Motivating your children to complete their homework will only aid in betterment of your child’s curriculum and help him to excel in studies. Isn’t that what all parents want? So pull up your socks, hold on to your shields and don’t let your kids win over you in the battle of getting the homework done.
If you are clueless about not being able to get your child to do their homework, we have a few tips here that will help you to get a kick-start in making your children do their school homework and win over the battle.
- Avoid trying to control your kid
Kids hate being controlled and once they know you are trying to control them; they grow into rebellious and stubborn monsters who will not give in no matter what. So to get your kids to listen to you and do their homework on their own, you must make sure you don’t try to control your kids, and even if you do make sure you do it without making them realize.
- Use your past experiences
If you have happened to get things done in your past, then it will be easy for you to adapt to those measures when getting your child to do their homework. Not extreme steps, but something similar and easy for your kids to give in will just work fine.
- Do not end up in fights over homework
When trying to convince your little one to complete their homework, make sure you not fight or yell at them. Doing so will only threaten and put your relationship with your kid at stake. Fights can get nasty. Instead, try convincing them in a polite and understanding manner.
- Take a break from the responsibility
Sometimes just let go and leave your responsibility of constantly taking care of your kid. Watch how kids react to your negligence. Children tend to develop a feeling of guilt and often end up doing what their parents wish them to do. When you don’t always run behind your children, they end up making mistakes, being scolded and insulted at school; these will help them realize how right you were and how wrong they were. So it’s a risk you can take to teach your kids the hard way.
- Set ground rules
If letting go also doesn’t work, then you must set some ground principles. Deciding that a particular time of the day, after kids have returned from school will only be dedicated to doing homework. This will force the kids to follow schedule and teach them to do their homework for better. Also you can have them grounded or decided by unanimous votes certain punishments in case children have not been able to abide by the rules.
- Communicate with your kid
There are times when kids are going through some personal problems or they genuinely are not able to do their homework because of learning disability. In such situations, you must communicate with your children to know the exact reason. It is highly possible that they are facing some issues at school or are being bullied by kids that they lose interest in everything they do. So you must communicate effectively and know the reason behind them not doing their homework on time.
- Guide them
Let your children know the advantages and disadvantages of not doing their own work or homework. How doing their homework helps them to excel at school. Encourage them to be a little competitive at the same time teach them how to be sportive. Build confidence in them.
So, in a battle to get your children to do their homework make sure you come out winners by not giving in to their stubborn behavior and ensuring they grow into better individuals.
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