In short, will you be able to face up to all your problems?
Our problems should be considered as our challenges in life, and if you don’t learn up to face up to your problems, you will never learn to face up to them at all. No matter how big or small it is, you must still learn to face up to your problems, because if you don’t, you’ll never learn how to live, as life is full of problems from the day you were born to the day before you die.
I sometimes wonder that why do people tend to say that running away is not a way to solve your problems.
Sometimes running away from problems, doesn’t mean that we ignore our problems. However, there are cases, when letting time to solve our problems is the best option. Although it does not appear rational, it has turned to be the better option for many people and has given them a lot of peace.
Problems can be work related or personal, and it is generally said that one man’s solution to a problem could turn out to be another person’s nightmare. This is mainly so because you are the only person that can solve your problems. In other words, if you do not face your problems and turn the other way, you are just avoiding them, which over time would pile up and cause you huge amount of stress.
Therefore, knowing where we are going is an important aspect to problem solving.
Most of us would have tried to solve our problems and felt happier than before. Would we have been happier, if such a problem had never surfaced? Perhaps not, but that is not something for us to decide.
Sometimes, the problems do not need any solving and as mentioned earlier, all it needs is some time. Sometimes visiting a shrink can resolve it. Alternately, all you need is to take a holiday, sit down, write your problems, and slowly solve them one by one.
When you tend to ignore an issue or problem, they tend to resolve itself. It is magical, as if solutions emerge from nowhere. If you begin to view problems as solutions when you encounter a minor setback or delay, you will notice a completely new perspective. Of course, this may irritate others, if they too are involved or are a part of the problem.
Theoretically, majority of the problems are time-based and resolve themselves in the long run. However, it causes a lot of worry and tension as we have the remotest clue, when this problem may be solved. It could be today or it could be after three years, and there are passive sufferers who have accepted these problems as their destiny, and do very little to solve it. So, in a time-based scenario, the time-period could cause quite a bit of misery.
So let us assume that we have run into a generic problem that needs a solution. A problem as such cannot be described, as it must be remembered that no problem can exist in the absence of an objective. That is to say, we need to know exactly where we want to arrive so that we can properly determine our track, as well as direction.
One of the most important factors is to initially view the problem with a fresh perspective. In other words, knowing where we are going is an important aspect to problem solving.
So, what is the advise for people who run into problems?
Just, a few simple steps.
The first thing when you encounter or run into a problem is view it from all angles. You can do this by changing or restructuring your way of thinking.
For this, you need sleep.
By sleep, you mean a sound sleep. The sleep would give you a relaxed mind, and makes any problem solving far easier, instead of purely relying on intuition. After a sound sleep, your approach to solve the problem becomes more systematic, more balanced, and logical.
Starting from that point onwards, it is easier to perceive the problem and you tend to view it less as a problem and more as an issue that has somewhat arrived at a solution.
After the sleep, it is better to split the problem into smaller problems and begin solving it step by step. It is realistic when you do this and write the processes down, as you would very soon begin to see the possible solutions that underlie within each problem. This procedure helps you identify the best solution embedded within each problem
After writing it down, the next step in our hypothetical problem is to identify pain points, if any, and identify the connections between the connecting pain points. This would help you understand the problem better, then take on the objectives, and translate them into structured programs.
Thirdly, it is advised that you reflect on the possible solutions, while consulting friends and relatives. At the same time, also conduct a strategic analysis and begin to tailor solutions according to their feedback and sentiments. This would eventually result in deeper penetration and a larger perception of the whole problem
Stage number four is to evaluate all possible solutions. In other words, reviewing the problem, point by point, while analyzing the pros and cons of each possible solution.
The next step or stage number five is when you implement the decision.
Last of all or stage number six, is post-decision justification or evaluation of the outcome. Of course, this also means the implementation of any follow-up actions required.
Unfortunately, it is only when you encounter or run into problems, only then, these so-called strategies materialize. In other words, it is only when you start visualizing the problem mathematically, you begin to analyze what the problem really is, and start approaching it in an organized and logical manner. Then the whole problem becomes easier to solve.
Problems need to be solved or else they could develop into an even worse situation. However, you do not have to take them head on and at most times it is a lot easier than struggling with it.
To put it in a different way, “you should fight your own battles, but that doesn’t mean you should fight all of your battles on your own.”
Also, do not ever try to perceive the problem bigger than it actually is, and the actual problem is only as big as you perceive it to be. So, once you visualize yourself to be bigger than the problem itself, it tends to provide a positive outlook, towards solving the problem
Once you find a solution to a problem, the feeling and satisfaction of solving it is so great that explaining it has just no words.
The most successful lives are the ones that who face up to their issues and problems, and effectively manage and solve their problems.
So, face each problem as a challenge, and consider each mistake as an experience. That is to say, challenges help us grow, and with the process of growth, we gain experience.
In short, the best way to escape a problem is to solve it.
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